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Dorian Gray
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: Paris, France
 
2007-08-21, 22:34

Relationships are hardest to sustain around the two-year mark, in my opinion. By then you've really got to know your partner well. The few things that you don't yet know, don't surprise you when you find out. Things are less exciting, though sex (assuming you don't abstain for religious reasons or what have you) is probably pretty good by then. It's perhaps time to think about serious things like whether you could actually settle down for life with him or her. So it requires real dedication and commitment to spice things up. You have to take the initiative to actively make things happen, or you do risk the relationship turning into a platonic kind of thing.

I tend to take the long view about these things. If it didn't work out in this case, better now than in five years when a messy and even more traumatic divorce might have been on the cards. Best to move on, recover your energies for a while, then try again with someone new. Think of all the good things you shared with her, what she taught you that you might never otherwise have learned. Keep the photos to aid that memory. Allow it to be beautiful and bittersweet, and you'll naturally move on in the right frame of mind.
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