Agreed. The tone of the debate could be more friendly.
I still believe it's right to criticise China on certain issues. Though, it can be difficult critiquing China, for example about human rights, without getting an angry response. But I suppose the answer in part lies in not blaming China for ones own dismal economic performance. The Chinese would probably be more willing to listen if they didn't have to hear the Americans bitching about loosing their jobs to China.
Some random points:- China does have problems with some of it's export products, and that is a valid point of criticism.
- America's protectionist attitude to free trade is both hypocritical and most likely a major cause of it's current lack of competitiveness.
- Globalisation has made it almost impossible to cut yourself off from countries like China.
- Getting cheap products from China saves you money and let's you put your labour resources to work on other things. Those other things should mainly be export oriented, so that you have money for all those nice Chinese consumer goods.
- Book recommendation: Martin Wolf - Why globalisation works