Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Ok, now that I'm done stealing atomicbartbeans' trademark , here's the gist:
So this seems to be a pretty interesting group of regulars here, so I'm starting a thread for everyone's thoughts on dating. Of course, I made mention of dating in this thread and it seems to have since hijacked the thread. Thus this thread: so that other threads can, well, stay on topic . Some of Windswept's comments have been, well... interesting, to say the least. So let's hear it: complaints, comments, suggestions, thoughts, tendencies, observations, experiences, expectations, whatever. Sometimes they're happy , sometimes they're sad , and sometimes they're just... well, they just "are" . Sure, I'll probably take flak for starting this thread, but I think it'd interesting (and thus worth the flak ) to hear the AN community's thoughts on this, since it affects most of us at one point or another. Let's try to keep bitterness out of this... I know I'm squelching a fair amount right now! Have fun! Apparently I call the cops when I see people litter. |
quote |
Antimatter Man
Join Date: May 2004
Location: that interweb thing
|
Dating like one-nighter attempts? like looking for M. Right? like wingman stories? Qué?
|
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
|
|
quote |
reticulating your mom
|
I prefer relative dating.
Last edited by atomicbartbeans : 2005-11-13 at 21:15. |
quote |
meh
Join Date: May 2004
|
Stop torching me with your stupid dating crap. :sits here with no GF and never had a date :
|
quote |
Member
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Orlando, FL
|
dating is a very important topic to the geoscience community. Chief among that is the concept of the "Law of Superposition" Which allows said "relative dating" to occur.
|
quote |
¡Damned!
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Purgatory
|
Does that mean my cousin is more likely to let me twist her like a pretzel than someone I'm not related too? |
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
Do I know your cousin? |
|
quote |
On Pacific time
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Moderator's Pub
|
Quote:
Funny. Now that there's a thread where dating is the 'actual topic', no one can think of a 'thing' to say! haha Okay, I'll address DMBand's post about being straightforward (again). Unlike 'some' females, apparently, I have *never* said the opposite of what I really mean (in 'any' relationship). Even when I was a young teen I never did stuff like that. It just seems stupid to me, and most assuredly causes more trouble than it's worth. Perhaps people say stuff like that when they don't have the courage of their convictions wrt certain issues. At least, that's what I'm guessing. Insecurity and immaturity combined. 'My' concern is that I have to guard against being *too* straightforward, because that can produce unwanted consequences too. Also, I am a very affectionate person, so sometimes I have to keep myself from being 'too' affectionate and, instead, try to maintain more of an emotional 'distance', especially in new relationships. I find this approach to be wise for me, because later, if my interest in someone wanes, it's better for all concerned if I haven't been too enthusiastic at earlier stages of the acquaintanceship. I don't think any of that is really 'game-playing', but it certainly is a 'managing' of the expression of my feelings early in relationships. |
|
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
|
|
quote |
Veteran Member
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Promise Land of Trustafarians
|
Quote:
Now, that's done, you shouldn't be able to read this. The only times you will ever actually meet a girl and have something happen is when you turn your computer off, so take my advice. It works. (And it should be incredibly obvious) |
|
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
Quote:
I'd just like to underscore that second part above about not being too straightforward. I got burned by being too straightforward. Had a bad weekend, was way too straightforward about why, and... so yeah, moving along. I guess one of my gripes, completely aside from "playing games," is that everyone my age seems to reek of superficiality, and that absolutely drives me up the wall. It really seems like a rare treat to meet someone who is really down-to-earth and realistic about things, while still having a personality that's generally comfortable to be around. Of course, my perception could be skewed... I dunno. Oh, and one more thing... Quote:
Apparently I call the cops when I see people litter. |
|||
quote |
Veteran Member
|
Way too many emoticons in the first post.
That should be some kind of penalty in itself. Only Murbot is allowed to get away with that. |
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
The form tells me when I have too many, but I think I was right at the limit! |
|
quote |
On Pacific time
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Moderator's Pub
|
Quote:
But the thought of that *creeps you out*. Seems like we have "mission impossible" on our hands here, Shadow. I think I know what you mean, though. Dating someone a few years older might 'seem' like a good idea 'on paper'. But when you actually start thinking of putting it into practice, it may seem a bit more 'iffy'. Awkward? Yeah, that's the word. |
|
quote |
Veteran Member
|
[bloodninja]I find the robe and wizard hat works wonders[/bloodninja]
|
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
Been in love once, still love her(serious relationship). Been in deep 'like' a few times, still communicate with some of them(less serious relationships). Been a whore for a while(fuck buddies!), surprisingly dissatisfying. I've never really 'dated' though, not in the conventional sense. Sure, I've been on dates enough times, but all the relationships I've been in and out of have been pretty irregular. But then, I think that's probably pretty normal, so it's not really irregular, just not 'traditional', whatever that means. I've been a ho for the past few months and I think I want a real girlfriend again, but at the same time, having a committed relationship is draining and time consuming, so maybe not, maybe I just want steady sex with someone I like.
Oh... the internet |
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
Quote:
Golly! I was seeing(sleeping with) an older woman for a while, I loved it! she was great in bed AND she was mature enough to not be all drama blahblah. Girls my age are mostly crazy, which, has its charms, but it was such a breath of fresh air to deal with someone who had 'been there, done that' so to speak. |
|
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
Quote:
Apparently I call the cops when I see people litter. |
||
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
Quote:
The whole 'meeting people on the internet' thing is kinda dubious, but at the same time, dating services have always been around, and this is just the newest one. Enough people are getting into them these days, that the people that use them aren't all going to be freakish weirdos. It's becoming more or less accepted...etc. I mean, think about it, there is no harm in talking to people via AIM, you get to know someone based on their intelligence, humor and non-aesthetic values. They may or may not intrigue you, you may or may not be intrigued by them, but if you are, then you can meet in person and have sex with them. Win-win if you ask me. So, in that regard, I don't think it's such a bad idea really. Yes, I experimented around with the internet dating thing a little. I went on a few dates with a few different girls, I boned a couple girls, and I stopped doing it with the knowledge and satisfaction of having tried and gotten something from it. What's more, Relationships I've had with people I met in real life have benefitted greatly by the convenience and cutesiness of IM an email. So... It definitely has its place. Ultimately, I'd be more comfortable meeting someone in real life than through the internet, but I think there is nothing inherently wrong with the net either, especially if that's where you are comfortable. Of course, there is a world of things to be said about the type of person that is comfortable on the net, but let's just assume quag is a strapping young dynamo waiting to explode his majestic cock of the gods on a beautiful young nymph of passion.... |
|
quote |
Veteran Member
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Promise Land of Trustafarians
|
Yeah, but I think that it can be hard to really express your feelings well over AIM. Maybe if you have the writing skills, it'll work for you, but for people my age (15, I believe Quag is the same age), I think it really works better to meet them in real life. Sure, just about every high schooler I know has a Myspace profile, but c'mon. It's Myspace. One person can only read so many "sexy truck" comments and "ooh check owt mi knew pics!!!11!!" messages.
Anyways, I think if you have the writing skills, AIM and email could definitely work, but in my (limited) experience, conversations turn cold and unemotional quickly. Last time chatted with in that kind of situation on AIM we ended up talking about the difference between soccer sandals and regular sandals. |
quote |
Veteran Member
|
Quote:
|
|
quote |
Hates the Infotainment
Join Date: May 2004
Location: NSA Archives
|
Quote:
As for dating, I thank God every day I'm old enough to barely remember it. ...into the light of a dark black night. |
|
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
Quote:
...and you weren't able to use that for some charmingly endearing comedic gold?! that's your problem buddy, not your writing style's |
|
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
I make no illusions that sexual activity isn't an important part of any given relationship, but the idea of just getting around for the sake of satisfying a gargantuan sex drive just seems a little... wrong, to me. Is there something I'm missing here? (other than "getting some," to stave off the jokes ) Sorry, no offense Wrao, your lifestyle is your choice (and if your lifestyle and your comments aren't quite in sync, I apologize for misinterpreting), it's just a general point of contention for me. I've just never understood the "one night stand" mentality... *puts on asbestos suit* Apparently I call the cops when I see people litter. |
|
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
oh yea, and cubie...
Code:
|^^^^^^^^^^^^|
| SEXY TRUCK | '|""";.., ___.
|_..._...______===|= _|__|..., ] |
"(@ )'(@ )""""*|(@ )(@ )*****(@ |
quote |
Travels via TARDIS
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Earthsea
|
Quote:
I stand corrected. |
|
quote |
Yarp
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Road Warrior
|
Quote:
Perhaps I didn't make my point too well(curses text! ) but, basically my point is that, you build the meaningful relationship via IM and email, maybe graduating to phones if it's really neat. Then, by the time you meet, sex gets thrown into the equation and wow, suddenly you're in an awesomely fulfilling relationship and it all started with casual and simple IMs. For the record, one-night stands are basically worthless. I have never gotten any satisfaction out of them outside of the immediate pleasure, which even then has been surprisingly disappointing. |
|
quote |
Veteran Member
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Promise Land of Trustafarians
|
Quote:
|
|
quote |
Veteran Member
Join Date: May 2004
Location: San Francisco, CA
|
CubeDude, just wait until you get to college and hit Facebook.
Anyways, here's one of my friend's response to the whole "Beautiful Truck" thing: Code:
YOU GOT HIT BY THE>>>
@________@ LAME COUCH!
>:-(--|----< *Ker-splat.*
ONCE YOU'VE BEEN HIT, YOU HAVE TO HIT 8 Lame People IF YOU GET HIT
AGAIN YOU'LL KNOW YOU'RE REALLY LAME! IF YOU "BRAKE" THE CHAIN,
YOU'LL BE CURSED WITH COOLNESS FOR 10 YEARS SO PASS IT HIT WHO
EVER YOU THINK IS LAME Note to everyone: this isn't a good idea for someone who you want to date. |
quote |
Posting Rules | Navigation |
|
Thread Tools | |
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
The Official *Saturn* Exploration Thread | curiousuburb | AppleOutsider | 226 | 2017-09-15 06:26 |
The Official: Little Things that Ruleâ„¢ thread. | Moogs | AppleOutsider | 101 | 2013-08-14 14:24 |
Official Tour de France 2005 thread. | Quagmire | AppleOutsider | 50 | 2005-07-25 19:25 |
An (official) welcome thread | _Ω_ | Feedback | 1 | 2004-06-27 21:07 |